Early For a Change

I wrote a post about not having been where I wanted to be by now. Or by 30, which is coming this September. I was kind of bummed, and a lot of you commented that none of us are where we want or thought we would be by this terrifying (although kind of exciting) milestone. And it helped. A lot.

And then I found this on Pintrest. Ages that well-established authors got their big break or wrote the work that defined them as an artist. I read it to Batman, as I do anything that excites me, and after listing all the names and ages, I turned to him and exclaimed (possibly shouted) “I’m not late! I’m early!”

If you’re like me and too lazy to click on the link, here’s the rundown: ages range between 26-65 and cover authors from James Joyce to Dan Brown, from C.S. Lewis to J.K. Rowling. The exciting part is that the majority fell in their 30’s and 40’s. Which means, on average, this little 29 year old is early, folks.

I’d been meaning to share this link but I’m lazy and forgetful. More so the latter. And then this morning, I opened my email to find my daily TUT–notes from the Universe. Know about this?  Here’s today’s:

“Because you’ve been wondering…

You’re way ahead of schedule. It’s time you learn to let the rest unfold.

It doesn’t matter that others are talking about you.  They sense the profund effect you’ll have on humanity.

And yeah, you can pretty much coast from here. Just remember, coasting implies that you’ll stay in motion.

TV will suit you,

The Universe”

Things we learn from this Blog Post:

1 Check out TUT. It’s a great place to find inspiration and belief in yourself. Because you’re amazing and filled with power and potential and are part of something much, much bigger than yourself. And sometimes, all it takes are a few notes from the Universe to remind you. So check it out. You’ll thank me. Just like I thanked my mom who told me about it.

2. Don’t beat yourself up. You may not have arrived exactly when you wanted to, but when you’re supposed to. Fate knows what’s going. She’s got it all under control.

 

Meeting Richard Bausch

Cloud nine.

That’s where I am right now.

I’ve just come from a reading by one of my literary heroes – Richard Bausch – and honestly, I had several hesitations over going. I’d lose writing time, I wouldn’t be able to find the lecture hall (actual worry) and I’d be surrounded by people in a large hall – not my idea of a good time.  I even talked myself out of going, arguing that I could catch him the next time he rolled into town. But I went. And I’m so glad that I did. Because it was worth it. So very worth it.

After thirty minutes of  reading one of his new short stories, it was already over. Time for the obligated students to leave and the rest of us to wait in line patiently. I didn’t realize so many people were willing to stay. To get an autograph from the author of their school- assigned books. But there were many like me, who came because they really wanted to, because they understood what a rare treat this would be.

Batman stood next to me. He’d been a champ the entire time. Wanting to be at home playing Far Cry or Halo or some highly-aggressive videogame, he stuck by me, held my hand and sat through a reading I’m sure he had absolutely no interest in. And waiting in line, he held the book I’d purchased for a subsequent signature. The first I would be getting in the original school text where I first read Mr. Bausch’s work.

When my time finally came, I set the text in front of him and quickly explained it was the book where I’d read “What Feels like the World.” He started to scribble his name and, knowing my time was running out, I quickly explained how important he was to me and my writing aspirations. And then I told him I followed his ten commandments.

At this he stopped and looked up, recognition in his eyes.

“Caitlin—did you write me?”

I did. In an email a week ago, I’d confessed how influential he was to me and mentioned that I followed his set of rules “Richard Bausch’s ten commandments” for writers. I’m not sure too many people know of them, or even follow them (though they should), but this sparked genuine gratitude in his eyes. In an instant, he knew who I was, that I’d written to him. So I confirmed it.

“Yes, I did.”

“Come here,” he said, then proceeded to open his arms to a hug. A hug! A hug from Richard Bausch! One of my literary heroes! Already fighting back tears, he looked me in the eye and told me how much my letter had meant to him, how he read it aloud to his wife and how it was one of the kindest letters he’d ever received. That’s when I started crying, because someone so important to me was moved by something I wrote.

Mr. Richard Bausch ended up signing both my books. In the original text from my years at Florida State, he wrote, “for Caitlin, my friend”:

I'm his friend!

I’m his friend!

and in the book newly purchased, “to Caitlin, who gets it.”

I get it. Richard Bausch says I get it.

I get it. Richard Bausch says I get it.

Writing has so many difficult days. Often they’re filled with doubt and fear and resentment for wanting something so far-fetched and having no choice but to be foolish enough to go for it. But then, days like today come along. Where it’s worth that effort. And pain. When hugs from heroes make all the difference and a simple signature with a few words give just one more push to keep going.

Days like today… wonderful.

Not the greatest picture. Batman did his best.

Not the greatest picture. Batman did his best.

(in case you’re interested)

My email to Mr. Richard Bausch:

Dear Mr. Bausch,

Thank you for taking the time to read this email. I will try to make this quick and to the point.

I first read your work in a short story class I took at Florida State University, where I studied for and graduated with a degree in Creative Writing.

In general, I prefer novels. They’re a longer love affair and I never understood the attraction to one or two sets of events that do what a novel can in fifteen or twenty. I’m not sure what I expected to obtain from the class other than additional insight and a teacher recommendation – what I needed to get into an advanced writing workshop.

And then I read “What Feels Like the World.”

I remember thinking I understood.

I just understood.

What you were trying to say, how you were trying to say it, and I knew I wanted to do the same. Write the same.

Everything I’d learned up until that point, the techniques, the do’s and do-not’s, the rules, the when-to-break-the-rules, were all preparation for a final picture I hadn’t yet understood. I’d read books, I’d enjoyed books, but I wasn’t making the connection between what I wanted to do and how to achieve it. Until I read your work. The way you write, the focus – I’ve been trying to imitate (sadly, I believe) in all my efforts. I just remember feeling so enchanted, like seeing something rare and beautiful, except I’d been looking at it the entire time. Only now I had glasses; now it was clear. You carved away the ugly and the excess and what was left was all that was needed. The bare minimum, which, at its core, was the beauty of the story. I want to do that. I’ve been trying to do that. Ever since I read “What Feels Like the World.” Ever since I read “The Stories of Richard Bausch.”

I want to be a successful novelist. The dream is to support myself financially, but I’m finding it’s not as easy as I’d hoped. I’m not opposed to hard work. Hard work strengthens. It trains. And that’s exactly what’s needed to achieve goals. That, and the willingness to struggle. And I’m doing both. I currently (and for the past five years since graduating) have maintained a steady 8-5 job while writing in the evenings. One to two hours. Sometimes three. I write the majority of the weekend and have (especially more recently) given up social outings to stay in and work. I’m always working. Always. I’ve become somewhat of a recluse but I can’t shake the habit. I feel uncomfortable, nervous, anxious when I don’t write. I think this is a good thing.

I’ve had little success (if any, to be honest), which has led me to doubt myself on more than one occasion. I even contemplated doing something else for living, but I don’t know what would make me happier. If there was such a thing. Most days I feel hopeless and afraid, terrified I’ll be caged by this 8-5 necessity that keeps me sheltered and fed, but from devoting the kind of time I need to writing the million stories itching to be told. I often look to your ten commandments for inspiration and motivation. On particularly rough days, when I’ve produced little or I’m confident everything I wrote was just a stepping stone to further edits, I tell myself, “at least I worked today.”

Recently, I’ve considered returning to school. Maybe I should learn a more practical trade, something to bide my time until my work can generate an income. But when I research graduate degrees, I inevitably check for MFA programs. Creative Writing. What kind of classes are they offering? I’ve even looked into attending Chapman University, for the sole reason that you teach there and in addition to teaching writing, you teach the writing life. This may be something I need to learn.

It’s long past due that I confess how very influential and important you’ve been to my writing and my writing practices, and of course, how thankful I am for the reading assignment all those years ago. Ironically, you came to read some of your work before I had the pleasure of devouring “What Feels Like the World.” As I didn’t know who you were at the time, I felt no deprivation in securing myself a comfortable seat in the back, where only parts of your words reached me. I have, since then, kicked myself for choosing so poorly.

As it happens, I’ve been researching more MFA programs and having previously been taught by S. K., noticed he is now the Program Director at the University of *****, where I live. In my serious consideration of attending Chapman University, I’ve considered reaching out to him, in hopes of establishing a temporary fostering writing relationship. I need two letters of recommendation and have not had many read my work, not those that could offer a valuable, professional opinion on it. In my research though, I discovered you would be here, next week, January 14th at the Reeves theatre. I cannot describe my elation at that discovery!

Mr. Bausch, I’m sure I’m doing a poor job at explaining how I feel about your work and what it’s done for me. I’m extremely uncomfortable in large, social settings, especially with others of great talent like yourself. I find more comfort in my recliner with the laptop open. For you though, I’m willing to brave the journey out into the world. And as far as seating arrangements, I promise, I won’t choose so poorly again.

With great admiration,

Caitlin G. Coppola

New Year, New Goals?

Can’t believe it’s here, but the first Wednesday of the month has arrived. And you know what that means: time for IWSG (Insecure Writers Support Group)! Being a writer is challenging enough, but finding others who share the same hardships and difficulties, who understand the struggles, fear and doubts, can be  oddly comforting. You’re not alone. You have a whole family of us out here. Come see.

This post, I’m focusing on 2015.

Every year I make the same resolutions: eat better, exercise more, get a better hold of my money. Get a dog.

The last isn’t really a resolution, but I throw it in there as incentive. Do better and reward yourself. But it’s 2015 and I’m still overweight, poor and puppy-less. On the 1st, I was treated to a delicious meal by my mother who suggested making goals rather than resolutions. Resolutions are easier to shrug off sometime in late March and try again the following year. But a goal is a finish line. It’s something to aim for, to work for, to send a ripple through your life for a positive end effect. What’re my goals?

Work smarter, not harder.

Emerge myself further in the writing environment.

Attend a writing conference, like the Writer’s Digest one in NY.

Get a dog.

Truth be told, I’ve been struggling.  November and most of December knocked me down. Hard. Through work and in my writing goals. Writing expectations and realizations. I’m almost thirty and I feel like a failure. Everyday I ask myself what I’m doing with my life. If I’m doing anything at all.

This is not what I had planned. This is not where I thought I would be by this time. I thought I would be highly popular with an active, loyal audience and able to support myself on the craft. That was what was going to happen. And here I am, typing this from a computer where I work with numbers all day. And I’m still dreaming. With no dog.

But I’m going to change that this year. I’m going to write even MORE, go to a damn conference and visit a shelter. This is a new year, after all.

And tomorrow’s not guaranteed. So best get shit done today.

What about you? What’re your 2015 goals?